Advice from a life coach on sticking to your New Year’s goals.
It’s only a few weeks into the New Year and all those goals and
resolutions you wanted for yourself are already slipping away.
One of two things is happening: Either you simply never got
started, or you’re running out of steam.
Not getting started is common. Even with all the great
enthusiasm and excitement we had about the year, the diversion
of the holidays and then just trying to get back into our normal
routines didn’t allow us to incorporate our new goals into our
old schedules. The goals we initially set now seem too difficult
to know where to start. Simply put, we are busy and distracted
by the overall tasks of our lives. Don’t worry. There is always
“tomorrow” or next year.
The other common element to resolution failure is burn out. It
is comically predictable, but have you ever noticed the level of
activity the first week of January? Go to any gym and you will
see it packed. In fact, January 1st and 2nd are two of the
busiest days in gym attendance. Weight loss groups, dating
sites, financial planners, career advisors, and support groups
all report high activity the first week of January.
Everyone wants to get in shape, lose weight, meet someone, get a
better job, save money, quit smoking, quit drinking and more. So
we start out the year no holds barred and go for it!
Unfortunately the results we want don’t come as fast as our
initial enthusiasm and when we don’t see quick changes we lose
our motivation. As the weeks go by the crowds disappear and soon
everything is back to normal activity levels as we all slip back
into our routines. Then we stay there until another failed
attempt next January. The result is that 2006 will be yet
another year you failed to achieve the changes you wanted.
The New Year motivates us to start, but we need to develop a
habit of successful behavior. As Jim Ryan put it, “Motivation is
what gets us started. Habit is what keeps us going.”
You can develop success habits and remedy lack of or diminished
motivation with a life coach technique called “ABC.”
A = Action. Start taking action today. We don’t achieve change
through thinking about it, but by doing something.
B = Bite size. Reduce all your new activities to small daily
actions. It truly is amazing how doing something small doesn’t
overwhelm us and produces amazing results. When we take on too
much we either don’t start or can’t keep it up. Work out 10
minutes a day; send out one resume a day, save a little money
every day and the results will materialize over time.
C = Consistency. Through the accumulation of small actions, we
get big results. Do your bite size action activities daily!
We all want big changes, but literally think about the change in
your pocket. We have all taken our daily change and placed it in
a container of some sort. Before long, that pile of nickels and
dimes had grown to several dollars. If you want to produce real
changes, concentrate on the ABC Success Habits. Get into action
today with small bite size activities consistently and before
you know it, you’ll be going to the bank at the end of 2006 with
a sizable deposit of results.