Even though the rule may be quite simple, it will save you tons of frustration if you learn to abide by it at all times. The rule simply states that once you see a potential mate (PM) you’d like to approach you have 20 seconds, to begin making an approach. This rule is essential, for being able to get sex. Spontaneity is a huge aphrodisiac, pre-rehearsed acting is not. The 20 second rule means that once you see a PM you like, you’ve got 20 seconds to get up from your chair and head (confidently) towards her direction. If you’re already standing, then you’ve got 20 seconds to make that first step towards your PM’s direction.
If 20 seconds pass and you still haven’t made that move, then forget about it! That’s right, you probably already blew it, anyways! Why? During the first 20 seconds (from the time you first see a good looking PM), endorphins (chemical stimulants) kick in and run throughout your entire body, giving you a burst of energy to want to go over there and talk to your PM.
This “burst of energy” gives you the ability to throw down a very spontaneous, genuine dialogue. Hold that thought…Most people’s biggest problem (when approaching a PM) is that they stand around contemplating too long whether they’re going to make “the move,” or not (more on that later), that by the time they finally decide to make a move – their dialogue/talk sounds like they’re reading lines from a script – it sounds pre-rehearsed.
However, if we would learn, and take advantage of these first crucial 20 seconds, the effectiveness of our dialogues would increase by hundreds of magnitudes. Now, for those of you who still have trouble making the first move let me put it nice, short, and simple for you… All you have to do when you see a PM you like is go over to him, and say, “Hi, how are you doing?” You have to attempt to do this within the first 20 seconds of having spotted her. You’re not asking your newly found PM out on a date, you’re not asking her to marry you, and you are certainly not asking him to fall in love with you. All you are doing is being polite to the person as a human being and asking your PM if he wants to connect with you somehow, at least in a superficial way. That superficial connection might lead into something bigger. Therefore, there’s nothing you should be afraid of when contemplating whether or not you should approach a fine looking PM. JUST DO IT!
For those of you who are afraid of “rejection,” well it doesn’t exist, unless you want it to exist. Follow along…In my hand I am holding a check for a million dollars. I crumble it up. It’s still worth a million dollars. I step on it, it’s still worth a million dollars, I start rubbing it on the floor with my shoe, and it’s till worth a million dollars.
You are worth a lot more than a million dollars. In fact, your worth is immeasurable. Therefore, there is no such thing as ‘rejection’ as you’re always worth the same no matter what. Nobody can reject you because nobody can change your worth. Moreover, don’t be afraid of something (rejection) that doesn’t exist. Take risks, ask for what you want, and eventually you will get what you want.
Pablo Golub is the author of the book It’s All a Damn Game which can be purchased at http://www.7-Ways.com In it you will find out how to succeed in life, money, and happiness. Testimonial: this empowering book will teach, inspire and coach you to break the habits of self-doubt and low self-esteem, to realize a new vision to attain genuine contentment; Jamie Piper, BS, Residential Specialist.
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